Yeah, so I need advice

[spjunkies]

I've been talking to this girl since November and she has given me nothing but mixed signals. I asked her about a month ago if she wanted to go to this birthday meal thingy my mother is going to have for me (a few aunts and Uncles) and at that time she said "I'll have to think about it" in a joking way so yesterday I asked her if she wanted to go and she started dodging the question, so I called her when I got home and asked her again and she still dodged it. I was finally able to get her to answer me and she said "to be honest I'm not comfortable meeting your parents yet" which I completely understand.

The thing is I wasn't even looking at it as it was some big thing I just wanted to have a date for MY party when everyone else is going to be with their wife or husband so why should I be the one who has to go solo? I was going to tell her to forget about going to the party and maybe we could hook up afterwards but I'm not sure if that's a good move or not.

Let me know what you think, I can take it.

[Drockvb]

Meeting your parents might not be a big deal to you, but for her it is. She will feel like she is under a microscope all night. Don't think that she doesn't like you or whatever. Meeting the parents can be stressfull for women.

Just tell her you will meet up with her later. :2cents:

[Die Hard]

At the very least... she knows you're REALLY REALLY interested. So much for playing it cool.

[IONTOP]

Yeah, I don't think that she considers herself a friend if she's afraid to meet the parents... I'm pretty sure that the mixed signals are over...

[spjunkies]

At the very least... she knows you're REALLY REALLY interested. So much for playing it cool.


The thing is I'm not sure if we're friends or dating because I'm too much of a ***** to make a move. Last night we somehow got on the subject of how nice guys finish last and I said "it's true" her response was "sometimes you have to be aggressive and take what you want" which I took as a BIG sign (am I reading this wrong) and I changed the subject FAST.

[IONTOP]

The thing is I'm not sure if we're friends or dating because I'm too much of a ***** to make a move. Last night we somehow got on the subject of how nice guys finish last and I said "it's true" her response was "sometimes you have to be aggressive and take what you want" which I took as a BIG sign (am I reading this wrong) and I changed the subject FAST.

Nope she is begging for you to break her off a peice of that SP Bar...

[Blighty Skins]

She wants to be taken...gently....at first. Take her out, get all touchy and feely....grab her waist (not her tits) then just put your mouth close to hers...she'll do the rest.

If you don't do something drastic...you'll miss your chance. She wont reject you...;)

Just do it...DO IT!!!! NOW!

[Metalhead]

yup, just make the first move. Actually, you could just make half of a move, like just begin to reach for her...and as everyone else says, she will do the rest.

[Titaw]

The thing is I'm not sure if we're friends or dating because I'm too much of a ***** to make a move. Last night we somehow got on the subject of how nice guys finish last and I said "it's true" her response was "sometimes you have to be aggressive and take what you want" which I took as a BIG sign (am I reading this wrong) and I changed the subject FAST.

Dog, you had a PRIME chance to take advantage of that comment. She wanted to give you a hint and you kinda botched it. Which is fine because it seems like you really like this girl.

Here's what you do. You tell here you are going to meet up with her later. You pick her up and take her to some place special for the two of you, like the place where you met. Spend some time with her and then tell here that there is no place you would rather be on your birthday. I can almost guarantee she will be so awestruck that she will make the first move. If she doesn't, she will definately be receptive of a gentle yet passionate kiss.

[IONTOP]

Or... Sit her down and tell her "You know we've been hanging out/talking for a few months and I was lying in bed last night thinking and all the sudden it hit me! I think our relationship will grow a lot more if we decided to just be friends."

And then when her eyes start to well up with tears, just say "Nah I'm just messing with ya, wanna go [insert date here] with me?"

[Johnny Punani]

The thing is I'm not sure if we're friends or dating because I'm too much of a ***** to make a move. Last night we somehow got on the subject of how nice guys finish last and I said "it's true" her response was "sometimes you have to be aggressive and take what you want" which I took as a BIG sign (am I reading this wrong) and I changed the subject FAST.

ARRGGGGGGGGG!!!

You missed it man! When a girl tells you something like that you kiss her right then! You should have grabbed her and laid a big passionate kiss on her. You blew it!!! :doh: :laugh: j/k

You should have kissed her though. She is basically telling you to go for it.

Read the signs Man, read the signs!

[Blighty Skins]

Yeah think about it...women only have gay male friends so she wouldn't be wasting time with you. Most women also don't like fast guys cos they think you only want one thing but they also don't like indecesive guys because they either think you're not really interested or you have penile dysfunction. Girls only need an excuse for a kiss....doesn't mean you have to grab their face and park your lips on hers...just get near her face with yours...job done mate.

If only I knew now what didn't know then...of course now it's easier...I just pay. :applause:

[spjunkies]

ARRGGGGGGGGG!!!

You missed it man! When a girl tells you something like that you kiss her right then! You should have grabbed her and laid a big passionate kiss on her. You blew it!!! :doh: :laugh: j/k

You should have kissed her though. She is basically telling you to go for it.

Read the signs Man, read the signs!


This was all over the phone.

If it was in person I would've made the move :silly: <---- that's a kiss face

[Titaw]

This was all over the phone.

If it was in person I would've made the move :silly: <---- that's a kiss face

Do what I suggested then. Trust me, IT WORKS!!!!

[spjunkies]

Do what I suggested then. Trust me, IT WORKS!!!!


I'm going to:)

[Blighty Skins]

Some other tips from a British Gigollo:

-most women like surprises...not cheesey ones though. Red rose = chessy Poem = weirdo Find out what she likes and just buy something could be anything...clothes etc. Doesn;t matter if you get her exactly the thing she wants...it's the thought. Women are all into this thought thing...:rolleyes:

-open doors for her...a lot of girls appreciate this

-lead her everywhere...take control

good luck...:cheers:

[Ghost of Nibbs McPimpin]

You took that sign and then your smooth move was to...change the subject fast?

Are you sure this chick isn't that 'chris crocker' kid from that other thread?

But I will say one thing in your defense. I am NATURALLY defiant. If a woman says something like that to me (they can never make up their mind whether they want someone to be aggressive or laid back, anyway) I'd probably back off. I don't like being told what to do, unless I'm already hittin' and she's just trying to help me get her to climax.

And if you HAD made a move, there's no guarantee she would have accepted it. Women are nuts like that, bro. But yeah, you should have tried and at least drawn out her real feelings and if she is just stringing you along or not.

With my last gf, I was saying some line like it was from a movie, "It is time" but I think I was trying to 'creep her out' (but in a funny way) and she grabbed my head and kissed me (first date.) That's what I like in a woman. Be upfront. Stop 'sending' signals. Just do and be. See what happens. Stop intimating that others are weak or passive when you're guilty of it yourself.

[Blighty Skins]

If all else fails make her a cuppa tea and put the telly on...women are a distraction anyway.

[Mr. Grundle]

Well, if you aren't sure if you're dating.....you're not dating.

First of all, if a woman is dodging a question continuously, take the hint...she is not comfortable with the idea. Don't force her to say it to you, you should have known after the second dodge. I can't blame her either....you want to bring the girl you are not sure you are dating to meet your mom, aunt, and uncles? Not a good first date.

Secondly, like everyone else has said.....she gave you the perfect chance to make a move, but you missed it. That's okay though. It sounds like she's interested, but still unsure.

Ask her out for some drinks after work or something. Alone in a restaurant, a little alcohol, NO PARENTS. A couple drinks with a girl you're interested in will loosen you up (and her as well), give you a little more confidence, and probably help her open up as well. Hurry up though before you get caught in the friend zone.

[Blighty Skins]

Last tip...women smell you if you're the right mate for them...so make sure you have a shower before the date and put on some good cologne...no cheapo old spice, mind. Then she'll associate that smell with you and you can use it on future dates until she's yours and then you can forget about even showering if you want.

Good method for a first kiss is to get near her face...if she doesn't meet you rub your face gently against hers slowly and just brush her lips...don;t just stick your tongue in her mouth...unless she likes it that way. :D

[spjunkies]

Well, if you aren't sure if you're dating.....you're not dating.

First of all, if a woman is dodging a question continuously, take the hint...she is not comfortable with the idea. Don't force her to say it to you, you should have known after the second dodge. I can't blame her either....you want to bring the girl you are not sure you are dating to meet your mom, aunt, and uncles? Not a good first date.

Secondly, like everyone else has said.....she gave you the perfect chance to make a move, but you missed it. That's okay though. It sounds like she's interested, but still unsure.

Ask her out for some drinks after work or something. Alone in a restaurant, a little alcohol, NO PARENTS. A couple drinks with a girl you're interested in will loosen you up (and her as well), give you a little more confidence, and probably help her open up as well. Hurry up though before you get caught in the friend zone.


We've already been out a few times so this wouldn't be a first date.

Anyway I just got the dreaded no answer so I think I'm screwed anyway :(

this sucks

[Johnny Punani]

We've already been out a few times so this wouldn't be a first date.

Anyway I just got the dreaded no answer so I think I'm screwed anyway :(

this sucks

What happened?

[Ghost of Nibbs McPimpin]

Did you punch her in the bleepin head?

See, this is why Ghost don't have female friends unless they're married or somehow attached or don't hold my interest (or are my exes.) Because if I like a woman enough to be a friend, it's likely that I would 'like' her in 'that way.' I like to keep my options open and being a 'buddy' to some girl is not one of my preferred outcomes. Let some other shmoe do that, while I'm hittin'. It was cool to be in that situation where a girlfriend of mine had 'guy friends' that I knew would get with her if given the chance, she had no interest, and they hated me for holdin' it down in a way they couldn't. Moral of that story: Don't be a damn friend to some girl unless you broke up amicably and can retain some measure of what they gave you romantically (but on 'friend' level, of course) or unless you've got like 10 prospects and don't need or want the added workload.

[spjunkies]

What happened?


On the dates? just a bunch of flirting.

The phone call? ring ring ring "Hey this is ****** I'm not available rightnow so please leave a message"

Me: "Hey it's spjunkies, I just wated to say it probably wasn't a good idea to ask you to come to the outing tomorrow hahaha but I would like to see you after. Let me know if that works for you, talk to ya soon"

:doh:

[DixieFlatline]

On the dates? just a bunch of flirting.

The phone call? ring ring ring "Hey this is ****** I'm not available rightnow so please leave a message"

Me: "Hey it's spjunkies, I just wated to say it probably wasn't a good idea to ask you to come to the outing tomorrow hahaha but I would like to see you after. Let me know if that works for you, talk to ya soon"

:doh:

Dude...unless you know she's sitting by the phone, you can't read into her not answering.

[twenty-eight]

Make a move NOW. If you she likes you then its all good, if she doesnt at least you knoq where you stand. She wont be interested forever, she might think that you're the one thats not interested and just move on....you'll be second guessing and kicking you self in the ass for a long time

[twenty-eight]

Ghost:doh: I have so many female friends:( I always get stuck in the friend zone, I'm such a *****:(!

...live and learn..

[Ghost of Nibbs McPimpin]

You should have left a message on her machine like:

You gonna give me the skinz or WHAT?!

[spjunkies]

You should have left a message on her machine like:

You gonna give me the skinz or WHAT?!


I started to do that but had second thoughts :laugh:

[praise_gibbs]

If all else fails make her a cuppa tea and put the telly on...women are a distraction anyway.


:rotflmao::laugh:

[praise_gibbs]

Ghost:doh: I have so many female friends:( I always get stuck in the friend zone, I'm such a *****:(!

...live and learn..


I can make myself a TON of female friends as well. :doh: There is nothing wrong with making friends of the opposite sex.. the problem is when they try to tell you who you should or shouldn't hook up with. The rule should be: "If your female friend messes up your chances with a certain lady and you wind up going home alone.. your lady friend will have to take one for the team!"

**** blocking ain't cool! :silly:

[Skins247]

I've been talking to this girl since November and she has given me nothing but mixed signals. I asked her about a month ago if she wanted to go to this birthday meal thingy my mother is going to have for me (a few aunts and Uncles) and at that time she said "I'll have to think about it" in a joking way so yesterday I asked her if she wanted to go and she started dodging the question, so I called her when I got home and asked her again and she still dodged it. I was finally able to get her to answer me and she said "to be honest I'm not comfortable meeting your parents yet" which I completely understand.

The thing is I wasn't even looking at it as it was some big thing I just wanted to have a date for MY party when everyone else is going to be with their wife or husband so why should I be the one who has to go solo? I was going to tell her to forget about going to the party and maybe we could hook up afterwards but I'm not sure if that's a good move or not.

Let me know what you think, I can take it.

She doesn't sound the least bit interested in you, dude. And I have to admit that doesn't sound like something you ask a girl to do when you're trying to get to know her. I think maybe you are too concerned about being the only one at your party without a date. That doesn't make you a loser. Hold your head up high. One of these days you'll find someone.

[jrockster21]

Dude...cut her loose ASAP. She's not interested, but is going to pretend like she doesn't really know one way or the other for awhile, so she can milk you for a few more dates. My advice, dump that ***** like some 5 Guys the next opportunity you get.

[G.A.C.O.L.B.]

Just hire a hooker dude. I got a number if you want it.

[praise_gibbs]

Wait a damned minute!!




Where the **** are the pics?! :mad:

[PokerPacker]

Wait a damned minute!!




Where the **** are the pics?! :mad:
you pose a VERY good question. we can't give any accurate advice without knowing what we're dealing with.

[spjunkies]

Don't have any pics of her.

sorry fellas

Take my word when I say she is a cutie.

[praise_gibbs]

you pose a VERY good question. we can't give any accurate advice without knowing what we're dealing with.


EXACTLY!!

OP,

Sorry dude.. not much more can be said on this subject unless we get to see all of the evidence put in front of us. More importantly, a pic of her from the front, back and just for ****s and giggles, one from each side as well. Bikini pics work and so does "snug jeans' pics.

I know, we can not be picky. So, I will just take the 4 pics and then I will try to help you out. From a friend to a friend. :cheers:

[jrockster21]

Don't have any pics of her.

sorry fellas

Take my word when I say she is a cutie.


Dude, seriously. Trust me. I dealt with a non-commital chick for a looooong time. Way too long it turns out. Axe that **** and get on with your life.

[RVAbrendan]

Dude this is simple.

On valentines day, call her and ask if she can be your valentine.

Give her one of those valentines like you got in elementary school, she'll love it.

[G.A.C.O.L.B.]

Dude this is simple.

On valentines day, call her and ask if she can be your valentine.

Give her one of those valentines like you got in elementary school, she'll love it.
Lame. Not the idea, just the execution. Don't do the elementary thing. That's too cheesy. Send her some flowers or some **** to her work.

Valentines Day is such a money holiday. It's a chance to fix **** with an existing GF and it's a chance to make your move with a potential GF. Or both. Whoever thought up this **** is a genuis.

[Kosher Ham]

JRock hits this one out of the park.

Sounds like you are spinning your wheels with a girl that considers you more of a friend than potential partner.

If you hadnt been wasting your time with her since November, you would probably have a date. Matter of fact a way to find out, is to get a date in spite of her telling you she didnt want to meet the parents.

She gets all upset and starts to hate on your decision, or whatever, than its clear she has interest or is just a hater. If she takes it nonchalant and doesnt give you any feel one way or the other than you drop her like you never knew her.

I hope most of your previous dates with her have been dutch or back and forth. Otherwise you have been punked.

Seems like an awful long time to be in the courting stage. And if you have been past 3rd base than maybe she just considers you a friend with benefits.

Boomerang quote - ' whip that *****, whip that ***** '. You arent the one that should be whipped. You need to get your confidence up bro. Women like confidence.

[Kosher Ham]

Dude this is simple.

On valentines day, call her and ask if she can be your valentine.

Give her one of those valentines like you got in elementary school, she'll love it.

:doh:

I know a girl that has 3 Valentines. And she isnt a tramp, just a single girl with options.

Please dont try to be a girls Valentine, that you have no idea if she is really into you.

[Kosher Ham]

Lame. Not the idea, just the execution. Don't do the elementary thing. That's too cheesy. Send her some flowers or some **** to her work.

Valentines Day is such a money holiday. It's a chance to fix **** with an existing GF and it's a chance to make your move with a potential GF. Or both. Whoever thought up this **** is a genuis.

Flowers are cheesy too, unless they are for a woman that you are clearly with, or is clearly into you.

Do they work together ? I am not sure. If they dont than surely she has some friends from work. If she isnt into him, he will be called a sweet guy, but at the same time basically called a wuss.

[G.A.C.O.L.B.]

Flowers are cheesy too, unless they are for a woman that you are clearly with, or is clearly into you.

Do they work together ? I am not sure. If they dont than surely she has some friends from work. If she isnt into him, he will be called a sweet guy, but at the same time basically called a wuss.
I disagree. I think flowers are a classic way to go. If it's a girl who you aren't really serious with yet then flowers are nice. If it's someone who you are ALREADY serious with THEN flowers are cheesy for Valentines Day. Cause then flowers are something you should be sending her on the random anyway and they aren't special enough on V Day.

And say for instance that you know that she loves chocolate and rasberries, throw in some rasberry cream filled chocolates. If you don't know then just bring the subject up in a casual conversation. "God I just had the best dark chocolate...so what's your favorite sweet" or whatever. You get the point. Just play it off and keep it cool. Surprise is the key here.

Plus work is the place to do it. Don't sign your name though. Just give a message that hints at who sent them. Every relationship in the world, serious or not, has inside jokes so I'm sure you can figure something out.

Then all her co-workers will be all over her asking who sent them and she'll feel all special and appreciated.

Nothing wrong with being a "sweet guy" at first. That just opens doors and gives you a shot at more. It's how you handle the the after that is going to count.

[Kosher Ham]

Problem is that on Valentines day at least 50% of the women in America receive flowers. Where is the unique factor, where is the special moment ? Wont he feel like a jackass if he leaves a hint and she thinks its someone else, wont he feel embarrassed if he sends them and she still doesnt have any interest in him.

He doesnt even know if she likes him at this point over 2 months into it. What makes you think he knows what she really likes ?

Screw that, save your bucks and spend it on a woman that is interested.

I still cant help but think that he has zero game. How could he not know at this stage if she is interested or not ? Thats terrible.

If you are not a sweet guy than dont pretend. Thats even lamer. He is already at least a friend (maybe with benefits), but if she cant do something for him as stupid as coming to celebrate his BD than she sucks.

I have my own woman test. It has worked for years.

[Ghost of Nibbs McPimpin]

I have my own woman test. It has worked for years.

Is it the one where if you put your hand on her head and she doesn't go down on the old braggiole, you toss her?

Or if you open the passenger side car door for her and she unlocks your door as you walk back to the driver's side, she's a keeper?

[G.A.C.O.L.B.]

Problem is that on Valentines day at least 50% of the women in America receive flowers. Where is the unique factor, where is the special moment ? Wont he feel like a jackass if he leaves a hint and she thinks its someone else, wont he feel embarrassed if he sends them and she still doesnt have any interest in him.
True but he's not serious with her yet so why the **** waste more then flowers on her? Plus like I said, flowers are classic. The hint is up to him. Don't be stupid and all vague about it. Make sure it's something that she absolutely knows where it's coming from him. And so what if she still ultimately has no interest in him? You have to have something before you can lose it. There are 3 billion women in the world. I'm sure he can get over it.


He doesnt even know if she likes him at this point over 2 months into it. What makes you think he knows what she really likes ?

He has 3 days to figure that **** out. If he doesn't know already then he better to pick up the pace.


Screw that, save your bucks and spend it on a woman that is interested.
Eh, four days until valentines day, **** it. If he doesn't have a woman he knows is interested in him then what else does he have to do? It's not like flowers cost 3 billion dollars.


I still cant help but think that he has zero game. How could he not know at this stage if she is interested or not ? Thats terrible.

I can see where you are coming from on this for sure. I think he just needs to say **** it and roll the dice. Stop being scared and just be blunt about ****. I mean two months in dude? You should have already banged her for real.


If you are not a sweet guy than dont pretend. Thats even lamer. He is already at least a friend (maybe with benefits), but if she cant do something for him as stupid as coming to celebrate his BD than she sucks.

Yeah I agree. I was just talking about valentines day. And I'm going off of what I'm going to do for this chick I just met a couple of weeks ago. I still haven't fully established who I am or what I am about with her yet. But for him two months in she shouldn't have any problems with this ****. It's not like it's a "meet my parent's" thing more then it's a "happy birthday" thing.


I have my own woman test. It has worked for years.


Me too. I bang hookers when I need to get one off and I just show my ass with the rest. **** it. You only live once.

[Kosher Ham]

Is it the one where if you put your hand on her head and she doesn't go down on the old braggiole, you toss her?

Or if you open the passenger side car door for her and she unlocks your door as you walk back to the driver's side, she's a keeper?

Certainly not the first suggestion. But thats funny as hell.

And that ol' school one is still a good one, but that just being nice, which is fine too. Problem is that I havent owed a car without doors that automatically unlock for over 10 years.

Have your potential that you know you are seeing later do something trivial for you.

I call it the gum test. I like gum and chew gum; at least a piece or two everyday. I had them pick me up a pack of gum typically or coffee on their way to see me or knowing that I was coming to see them, not putting them out of their way; just stop at the convenient store on the way home or to see me. If they do that one little stupid thing, than they are not all about themselves and have enough interest in you to just stop for a sec and think about you. You even offer to pay for it. Although, I have never dated a girl that asked me to pay for the gum.

That girl is at least datable.

[borninblood]

yup, just make the first move. Actually, you could just make half of a move, like just begin to reach for her...and as everyone else says, she will do the rest.


Have you been watching hitch? lol ;)

[Ghost of Nibbs McPimpin]

That girl is at least datable.

I must credit Bronx Tale for those two 'women tests.'

And yeah, the non-auto lock doors pretty much renders that test irrelevant.

It reminds me of my last gf (oh why couldn't that have worked out.) I showed a preference for a certain beer and one time I came over and she had two in the fridge and an iced mug to really make it enjoyable.

Wonderful girl. :(

[Enter Apotheosis]

Have you been watching hitch? lol ;)

I think that was a prerequisite for everyone posting advice in this thread.

[Westbrook36]

Pass her a note during class. If that doesn't work, tell one of her friends that you like her! Giggle a little bit while you do it.

[G.A.C.O.L.B.]

Pass her a note during class. If that doesn't work, tell one of her friends that you like her! Giggle a little bit while you do it.
Yo on the note you got to to put the "check here if you like me" feature. that's sooooooooooooooo money.

[Westbrook36]

If you have any common friends, always refer to this young lady as "your piece".

[G.A.C.O.L.B.]

If you have any common friends, always refer to this young lady as "your piece".
"your DIME piece" is better.

[CandaceM23]

Beinga female, this has been one of the most entertaining/ridiculous threads that I've read on ES in a long time. And only further proves my point that most men are piggies.

[redskins2redskins]

Being a female, this has been one of the most entertaining/ridiculous threads that I've read on ES in a long time. And only further proves my point that most men are piggies.

I agree,this has been very entertaining,LOL.:laugh: :laugh:

[praise_gibbs]

Beinga female, this has been one of the most entertaining/ridiculous threads that I've read on ES in a long time. And only further proves my point that most men are piggies.


You shouldn't make a comment like that, Kansas, without displaying a pic. ;)

[jrockster21]

Beinga female, this has been one of the most entertaining/ridiculous threads that I've read on ES in a long time. And only further proves my point that most men are piggies.

Well...where's your advice for the man?? :)

[RVAbrendan]

Yo on the note you got to to put the "check here if you like me" feature. that's sooooooooooooooo money.

Dude you shoot the wal-mart cartoon valentine method down, but you love the note giving giggling method?

[Kosher Ham]

Seemingly the ladies had a good time reading, but neither wanted to add advice for this guy.

Hmmm...

Please dont tell me either of you are, all of a sudden at a loss for words.

[IONTOP]

You have to be a certain type of guy to pull this off but here's what I would do...

Send her flowers on V-day and in the card put
"Do you like me: Yes or No
Circle one and call me later"

It's a mixture of humor and class. She'll definatly get a laugh out of it and making a girl laugh is the key to her heart.

[CandaceM23]

Okay ... here's my advice.

1. She knows that you like her. You've been showing interest in her since November.
2. You invited her to a family function ... dinner with your family for your birthday. Thats a clear indicator that you want her to be a part of your life. 25 year olds don't just invite ANYONE of the opposite sex over to meet their family on a special day.
3. You're getting mixed signals .... I think that she's just a girl that likes to play games.
4. Walk away from this girl and just don't waste anymore time or effort on trying to determine whether she likes you or not. If she liked you, she would have SHOWN you that she likes you - and I'm not talking about flirting one minute and playing hard to get the next.

You've been talking to her for almost 4 months ... thats entirely too long to be playing games with someone - and that's exactly what she's doing. She's trying to see what she has to do to keep you interested in her without giving you anything. There are a lot of girls who do these things - especially the ones that love for men to spend all of the $$$ on buying ridiculous presents for their friends with vaginas.

Honestly, she's been screwing around with your feelings for the last four months. If I were you, I'd just stop talking to her period. It's obvious that you care about the girl, but if she truly cared about you then she would have either made a move or flat out told you that she digs you. With you liking her, it's going to be hard to make the right decisions and its going to be difficult to see things with a clear head (you're going to analyze her every move to see if you can pick up on her digging you).

Chalk it up as a loss and find someone else who won't play games with you ... but make sure that person has a vagina. :)


Oh ... and one more thing. Don't waste any money on this chick for Valentine's Day. She clearly doesn't deserve it. Instead you should waste your $$$ on me as a token of appreciation for the honest advice that I've given.

[PleaseBlitz]

Seriously. Just ignore her for awhile. Turn the tables on her. Women that like playing games HATE/LOVE that.

Yeah, i know, it doesnt make sense now. Just trust me.

[Die Hard]

Okay ... here's my advice.

1. She knows that you like her. You've been showing interest in her since November.
2. You invited her to a family function ... dinner with your family for your birthday. Thats a clear indicator that you want her to be a part of your life. 25 year olds don't just invite ANYONE of the opposite sex over to meet their family on a special day.
3. You're getting mixed signals .... I think that she's just a girl that likes to play games.
4. Walk away from this girl and just don't waste anymore time or effort on trying to determine whether she likes you or not. If she liked you, she would have SHOWN you that she likes you - and I'm not talking about flirting one minute and playing hard to get the next.

You've been talking to her for almost 4 months ... thats entirely too long to be playing games with someone - and that's exactly what she's doing. She's trying to see what she has to do to keep you interested in her without giving you anything. There are a lot of girls who do these things - especially the ones that love for men to spend all of the $$$ on buying ridiculous presents for their friends with vaginas.

Honestly, she's been screwing around with your feelings for the last four months. If I were you, I'd just stop talking to her period. It's obvious that you care about the girl, but if she truly cared about you then she would have either made a move or flat out told you that she digs you. With you liking her, it's going to be hard to make the right decisions and its going to be difficult to see things with a clear head (you're going to analyze her every move to see if you can pick up on her digging you).

Chalk it up as a loss and find someone else who won't play games with you ... but make sure that person has a vagina. :)


Oh ... and one more thing. Don't waste any money on this chick for Valentine's Day. She clearly doesn't deserve it. Instead you should waste your $$$ on me as a token of appreciation for the honest advice that I've given.

Yep.

As Candace has said.... when a woman is interested... YOU will know.

[CandaceM23]

Seriously. Just ignore her for awhile. Turn the tables on her. Women that like playing games HATE/LOVE that.

Yeah, i know, it doesnt make sense now. Just trust me.

I think that anyone who wants/needs to play games just isn't worth the time.

[Teller]

I think that anyone who wants/needs to play games just isn't worth the time.

Depends on the game. ;) :D

[Kosher Ham]

Now thats the type of response, I was hoping for from Candace.

Thanks dear.

I just dont see how this guy doesnt see these things. Some say love is blind, I say love is blinding. I love my wife, but I can see her faults, as well as she can see mine.

I am the lucky one.

[Kosher Ham]

I think that anyone who wants/needs to play games just isn't worth the time.

I look at game as protection. Some women like to play games, but at the same time they are quality women, same with men.

[jrockster21]

4. Walk away from this girl and just don't waste anymore time or effort on trying to determine whether she likes you or not. If she liked you, she would have SHOWN you that she likes you - and I'm not talking about flirting one minute and playing hard to get the next.


You coulda just quoted me and saved yourself all that typing! :silly:

[GibbsFactor]

I'd give her the cold shoulder, at the very least it will show her that her **** won't be tolerated any longer. Especially with V-day coming up, just stop calling her and try to move on. If she is really interested, her game will change from defense to offense, and that's what you really want, considering your Opp Sex passive nature. I don't like games but if you really want to get in with this chick, you'd have to play the game. Just know that relationships that start out with games probably won't last regardless of the feelings shared because the game play will be the foundation of your relationship.

[boysetsfire]

Just walk away dude. I learned the hard way when this girl I liked kept giving mixed signals. Incidently it was around Valentines day and I ended up buying her some gifts. Needless to say after months of her games I basically got the "I like you as a friend" statement from her. Never again will I exchange in playing games with a girl because it's a waste of time and energy on you're part. Shes just probably seeing how far she can drag you. Sorry for being so negative but I go based on previous experiences.

[Blighty Skins]

Stick a finger in her navel. If she squeeks, she likes you.

[G.A.C.O.L.B.]

Dude you shoot the wal-mart cartoon valentine method down, but you love the note giving giggling method?
Oh my bad. I forgot. Here...

:rolleyes:

Make's all the difference

[E-Dog Night]

Have you thought about just giving her your dick in a box?

Valentines Day at your parents house, my dick in a box!

[G.A.C.O.L.B.]

Have you thought about just giving her your dick in a box?

Valentines Day at your parents house, my dick in a box!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
That made me laugh for real.

[PokerPacker]

Yo on the note you got to to put the "check here if you like me" feature. that's sooooooooooooooo money.
a friend of mine did something like that... except he wrote it on his arm :laugh:
lets just say the relationship didn't last long :laugh:

[spjunkies]

Reality just hit me when I tried to get her tp pick a date for us to go out (wed, thurs or Fri) and she tells me that she can't pick a date because it's so far away :rolleyes:


I'm done being played.

Thanks for everything everyone :notworthy

[The Batman]

Look here, broheim.

I've got the solution.

Next time you see her, give her a note before you leave. Make it say "Hey, wanna be spjunkies' hot girlfriend? Check yes or no."

The trick is, make the yes box take up the entire page, and make the no box so small that it's pretty much just a shaded in square that she couldn't check if she wanted to.

It works every time.

And after she checks yes...















Slap her in the face and yell, "I'm tired of being played! I got warrants!"

Seriously, it'd be a good decision to cut her loose. She's been playing you for far too long. You can do better.
:logo:

[CandaceM23]

Reality just hit me when I tried to get her tp pick a date for us to go out (wed, thurs or Fri) and she tells me that she can't pick a date because it's so far away :rolleyes:


I'm done being played.

Thanks for everything everyone :notworthy


So sorry ... but it's for the best. You're obviously better off without her.

[E-Dog Night]

You are probably making the right move. In all seriousness, I have two philosophies about dating.

(1) If she's the right one, you won't play any of these games. It will just happen and there will be no excuses to give, no lines to think of, nor any trepidation about whether she's in to you. You'll know.

(2) If you're just trying to get some scrumpin' with a hottie, then please refer to the "Tao of Steve" method of getting laid:


(a) Be desireless. This means that you MUST remove the desire to have sex with her. It cannot be an act. Girls can smell your act from a mile away, especially the hot ones who get hit on all the time. Think of something - anything - except how much you want to get in her pants. If you are thinking "man, she's so hot, I wonder if her body looks as good naked as it does with her clothes on. Sex with her would be so awesome", then forget about it. Stick a fork in you, because you're already done. You might as well go home and jerk off.


(b) Be excellent. This means you MUST bring someting to the table that can be used to your advantage during social situations. You must be good at something. It can be something as simple as being a witty conversationalist, telling a funny story, having an intellectual angle about a hot topic, or if you can play guitar and sing, even better. EVERY man has excellence within him. You need to confidently shake your money maker.


(c) Be gone. You MUST make yourself the hunted, not the hunter. Girls may act like they like to be chased, and I suppose they do, but only because it makes them feel pretty. It does not, however, make them want to have sex with you. No hottie likes a fawning puppy dog waiting for her to pay attention to you. Don't wait around for them! Example: if you are at a party, and things are about to end, YOU set the new place to go, and YOU go. Make her chase you. If she doesn't, then it wasn't going to happen anyway, and at least you've saved your dignity. (*Please note* -- When it comes time to close the deal, you'll know. She'll give you that look. She'll smile out of the corner of her mouth. She'll twirl her finger in her hair. Something like that. You'll feel the energy she's giving off. Don't blow it at this point by saying something stupid. Just retain the confidence you've gained by making her come to you and say as little as possible.)

There. I hope this helps.

[Ghost of Nibbs McPimpin]

spj,

I don't mean to clown you but for this to take four months to sink in, I gotta wonder about your previous experience, man.

I mean, all of us have maybe had a friend that was a girl where we just said, "bleep it!" and tried to get with her but not after a long and excruciating process of 'mixed signals,' games and back and forth. Never fall into this trap again, dude.

[Blighty Skins]

I don't think she's being playing you...I think she got the wrong vibe from you. Women test us out, that's why we go on dates. They wanna "get to know us". If they think we are too pushy, they think we are after one thing. If we are too slow...as in your case....they think either you're not really interested (doubt it in your case, as you keep asking her out) or that you don't give her what she needs (more probably), which is to feel protected, lead...you know, what generally women want from a man? And inviting her to your parents just made you more of a "mommys boy" in her eyes, probably. Which women think is OK until you reach 20, then they think you should be forging your own way in life and meeting your parents becomes an important step (i.e. marriage).

Live and learn my friend. Next time you meet a girl you like, don't be so hesitant. Better to be thought a sex-maniac then a mushy-penised bloke. Read the signs, read between the lines. If you thought the DaVinci Code was complicated, understanding women is 100 times worse. They are cryptic...if they weren't, there'd be no reason for dates...women would just tell you when they wanted to shag.

And remember, inexperience wont put a girl off per se...as long as you don't make it seem a problem, they wont take it as a problem. ;) Everyone goes through what you went through...some earlier, some later. Hope this helps you next time. :applause:

[jrockster21]

(2) If you're just trying to get some scrumpin' with a hottie, then please refer to the "Tao of Steve" method of getting laid:


That's a great movie!! :laugh:

[CandaceM23]

Being that BlightySkins has a penis, I don't think that I'd listen to him if I were looking for opinions on what women think.

[PleaseBlitz]

I think that anyone who wants/needs to play games just isn't worth the time.


He's already invested months into this. He outta at least TRY to get some ROI. :) And ignoring her doesnt take any effort at all. Its a win/win. :D

[IONTOP]

He's already invested months into this. He outta at least TRY to get some ROI. :) And ignoring her doesnt take any effort at all. Its a win/win. :D

Just let tell her straight up... "I just wanna poke you now..."

[PleaseBlitz]

Just let tell her straight up... "I just wanna poke you now..."


See, no. Thats exactly what she wants to hear. And if she hears it, then she has no reason to :hump: him. She wins, the game ends. No :hump:

If she DOESNT hear it, then she is going to have to do something ELSE to get him to validate her.

Trust me, ive been through this a coupla times.

The one that stands out was Jr year in college. She played games with me for 2 ****ing months. We were both from NoVa, so she thought she was going to keep it up over thanksgiving break. Instead, me and my buddies took a roadtrip to Boston and i ignored her phonecalls the whole time. (which was easy.:) BTW: a good pickup line for NoVa'ers in Beantown is "you talk funny." :laugh: )

Anyways, when i got back to school, i think i was there for half an hour before she barged in my apartment.

Ended up dating that one for 18 months or so.

[Blighty Skins]

Being that BlightySkins has a penis, I don't think that I'd listen to him if I were looking for opinions on what women think.

I read womens magazines.

[the burgundy and gold]

I read womens magazines.


thats a little strange

[TD_washingtonredskins]

By posting a thread on a football website, I think you've already thought WAY too much about it.

Happy Birthday.

[zoony]

spj, give us an update in a few days... when it sinks in with her that you're ignoring her.

I'll be curious to see how she reacts :munchout:

[PokerPacker]

I read womens magazines.
are you sure you wanted to post that?

[redskins2redskins]

Seemingly the ladies had a good time reading, but neither wanted to add advice for this guy.

Hmmm...

Please dont tell me either of you are, all of a sudden at a loss for words.


Nope I'm not at a loss for words,lol.

I just don't know if any advice I could give would be good either,considering my track record.:doh:

So I'll leave that to you guys,ya'll aren't doing that bad of a job.....some of it is funny thou...go back and read it.:D

Good luck with that chick or any chick you decide to go for.

I just read that you gave up on her,well there are plenty more out there for sure and you won't have to do so much wondering.

[Westbrook36]

Hand her a note that says "If you want to have sex with me, laugh or smile."

I BET IT WORKS!