And it's over.

[G-Prime]

The girlfriend and I broke up after a year and engagement.. I feel utterly destroyed. She won't even hear about trying to work things out and I have no idea why, she says she doesn't trust me not to hurt her, but I haven't done anything to hurt her in the first place. I've never really been heart broken before. This is an entirely new area for me and I have no clue how to handle it. I guess it'll go away, people get heart broken every day right? Guess all I got now is time.

In any event I told a friend of mine who happens to be a girl what's happened, she's been kind of chomping at the bit to go out with me and she wants to go out with me tomorrow night and "take my mind off it".. I'm wondering if maybe it wouldn't be a bad thing to have some meaningless sex with a chick I trust. I dunno.

[Mickalino]

Valentine's Day.....what a horrible time to breakup

[Bang]

It will get better.
Beware of the rebound chick for a multitude of reasons.

~Bang

[MattFancy]

dude i know how you feel. me and my girlfriend had been dating for 8 years when we broke up 2 summers ago. i was crushed. just make sure you have a solid group of friends that will be there for you and help you move on. it was tough at first, but i found the more you do with your friends and such the less you think about it.

[G-Prime]

Valentine's Day.....what a horrible time to breakup

At least I get to save some money

[Peeping Wizard]

It's hard. Keep your head up. You will get over it in time. For a little while every stupid thing will remind you of her. As hard as it is to imagine now, there will be a time in the future where she rarely ever crosses your mind.

[GSF]

You'll be fine. Move on as quick as you can.

[McD5]

Great Timing.....Always breakup prior to v day or bdays.

[Mickalino]

At least I get to save some money

I was going to say exactly that, but I didn't want to come across as insensitive :doh:

[Stophovr6]

The girlfriend and I broke up after a year and engagement.. I feel utterly destroyed. She won't even hear about trying to work things out and I have no idea why, she says she doesn't trust me not to hurt her, but I haven't done anything to hurt her in the first place

In my experience when you want to work on it and you feel you've done nothing wrong, the other person is feeling guilty about something. Not saying that she definitely did anything wrong. But she might be having urges.

Either way. Sorry to hear about this. I hope you feel better. It's always tough at first and it takes a while to get over it, but everyone does.

[Henry]

Valentine's Day.....what a horrible time to breakup

Like there's a good time to do it.

[deejaydana]

Slump-buster!

Sorry about that, and sorry about your loss. Sounds like you still need to get a reason from her though. She owes that to you.

[BigMike619]

It's hard. Keep your head up. You will get over it in time. For a little while every stupid thing will remind you of her. As hard as it is to imagine now, there will be a time in the future where she rarely ever crosses your mind.

:applause:

It took me about 6 months to be able to trust another woman but in time it will happen bro. just try to stay busy and keep yourself occupied. do NOT call her if you are drunk!!

[Duckus]

The girlfriend and I broke up after a year and engagement.. I feel utterly destroyed. She won't even hear about trying to work things out and I have no idea why, she says she doesn't trust me not to hurt her, but I haven't done anything to hurt her in the first place. I've never really been heart broken before. This is an entirely new area for me and I have no clue how to handle it. I guess it'll go away, people get heart broken every day right? Guess all I got now is time.

In any event I told a friend of mine who happens to be a girl what's happened, she's been kind of chomping at the bit to go out with me and she wants to go out with me tomorrow night and "take my mind off it".. I'm wondering if maybe it wouldn't be a bad thing to have some meaningless sex with a chick I trust. I dunno.

Sorry to hear that man. If you have never been dumped or hearth broken, then this will be a good thing for you in the long run. It is crazy how much you grow as person through this. I have been saying for years now, that getting your heart broken is an important part of life.

It takes a long time to get over it and it SUCKS, not going to lie. It took me 6-7 months to be completely normal again and able to date. It took me 2-3 months just to stop being depressed about it. You go crazy and you act weird, really weird.

As for the sex, that is the road I went down a few years ago after a nasty break-up. Started having a good amount of meaningless sex. In the end, it made things worse I think to rush into it. I would take a month or so, just to gather yourself. Then start hooking up with girls.

[Mickalino]

Like there's a good time to do it.

If it's the right thing to do, it's mutual, and it wasn't meant to be, there is.

[Duckus]

do NOT call her if you are drunk!!

HAHHA. So so so true. And don't stalker her online either. Delete her phone number right now, IM, facebook, myspace. EVERYTHING.

[G-Prime]

HAHHA. So so so true. And don't stalker her online either. Delete her phone number right now, IM, facebook, myspace. EVERYTHING.

I did.. although I regret deleting all the naked pictures I had of her... Would of made a great Christmas card for her bible thumping mother.

[shuler74]

There more fishy in the sea ..

http://media.ebaumsworld.com/picture/dannyboy425/girl1.jpg

[Forehead]

The girlfriend and I broke up after a year and engagement.. I feel utterly destroyed. She won't even hear about trying to work things out and I have no idea why, she says she doesn't trust me not to hurt her, but I haven't done anything to hurt her in the first place. I've never really been heart broken before. This is an entirely new area for me and I have no clue how to handle it. I guess it'll go away, people get heart broken every day right? Guess all I got now is time.

In any event I told a friend of mine who happens to be a girl what's happened, she's been kind of chomping at the bit to go out with me and she wants to go out with me tomorrow night and "take my mind off it".. I'm wondering if maybe it wouldn't be a bad thing to have some meaningless sex with a chick I trust. I dunno.

Sorry to hear this man, especially if you were engaged for a year. We're always around talk if you need to.

As for the other girl...I have to admit, I'd be sorely tempted if I was in your shoes, it's not so easy to just say "Don't do it" when it's right there in front of you. But the others are right, you might want to take a few weeks/months to collect yourself, then make that decision. If she's chomping at the bit that much, she'll probably still be chomping at the bit a little later.

Take it easy, try not to think too much, and shoot PMs out if you need to.

[Mickalino]

I did.. although I regret deleting all the naked pictures I had of her...

I think I know which direction this thread is headed now

[buenosdiaz]

dated a girl for 3 years...you'll be fine

i was bugging out when it happened...but you will move on....might take a while but you'll be alright


no drunk dialing or text messaging and you will be fine

and you NEVER delete the naked pictures haha

[Forehead]

I think I know which direction this thread is headed now

Hopefully folks will be a little more sensitive than to ask him to post them, even though he clearly said he deleted them, but I doubt it.

[buenosdiaz]

oh and you can erase her # all you want that joint is engraved in your head though haha sooo just stay strong when you get the urge to call

[BigMike619]

Hopefully folks will be a little more sensitive than to ask him to post them, even though he clearly said he deleted them, but I doubt it.

seems like Mick is the only one going in that direction.

:2cents:

[Thiebear]

A real man breaks up Dec 21st and then gets back together on MLK day.

[Mickalino]

seems like Mick is the only one going in that direction.

:2cents:

seems like you're trying too hard to read into it

[buenosdiaz]

oh and for the record your friend is definitely DTF

[jrockster21]

She met someone else, dude, that's why she's making up some lame ass excuse. Either that or she's crazy. Either way, its a good thing she's out of your life. Now go find a nice, single lady on Valentine's Day and have fun. I would wait awhile with your other friend...because there may be something there, and meaningless sex now would just ruin it.

[BigMike619]

She met someone else, dude, that's why she's making up some lame ass excuse. Either that or she's crazy. Either way, its a good thing she's out of your life. Now go find a nice, single lady on Valentine's Day and have fun. I would wait awhile with your other friend...because there may be something there, and meaningless sex now would just ruin it.

you really should print this up and take it with you every place you go.

[DeanCollins]

It will get better.
Beware of the rebound chick for a multitude of reasons.

~Bang

words of wisdom there. wait awhile for your slam down the "forget about it"
snapper. There is nothing worse than wanting someone that doesn't want you. Put a sign on your bathroom mirror that says It's Over STFU already ;)

Let me remind you that you are in the prime of your life and that women don't reach their sexual peak until 29 + or - and their stock is on the down hill slide so enjoy being single again and slap down another 50 or 100 so that you'll be "happily married" someday like DC :D

[buenosdiaz]

Let me remind you that you are in the prime of your life and that women don't reach their sexual peak until 29 + or - and their stock is on the down hill slide so enjoy being single again and slap down another 50 or 100 so that you'll be "happily married" someday like DC :D



So what you just got to do is... just get you a bunch
of these hood rats...run through them, just knock them out BOOM BOOM BOOM

And once you've done slayed like 30 or 40 of them hood rats now you ready to go up to the upper echelon type ho. You Know what i mean?

[Skinz4Life12]

^^hahaha god i love that movie

[G-Prime]

tired of ho's.. aren't there any real women left that aren't completely friggen ape **** nuts! grrr

[buenosdiaz]

tired of ho's.. aren't there any real women left that aren't completely friggen ape **** nuts! grrr


yeah you (back in the day), me, all us 18-25 year old guys ruined them haha

[IbleedBnG83]

Don't fall for the next girl. Stay single for a while to clear your head. Focus on things you have been looking to excel at (work, hobby etc).

Don't sweat it, you will meet someone else.

How long were you guys together? Engaged?

[IbleedBnG83]

tired of ho's.. aren't there any real women left that aren't completely friggen ape **** nuts! grrr

Truth is, the older you get, the harder is. Guy and girls snag the good ones before they are gone.

Try going on dates. OKCupid.com, Match.com, Craigslist.com...

[G-Prime]

Don't fall for the next girl. Stay single for a while to clear your head. Focus on things you have been looking to excel at (work, hobby etc).

Don't sweat it, you will meet someone else.

How long were you guys together? Engaged?

only been a year, been engaged 3 months, been living with each other for awhile.

[Titaw]

About the first part of the post: She is probably feeling guilty about something, more than likely she cheated, and she feels that if she accuses you she'll catch you slipping to justify her infidelity. Apparently she isn't right for you. It'll hurt for a couple days/weeks/months. One day you'll wake up in the morning and realize how lucky your are to not be with her.

Now, onto the second part: Ain't no time like the present. Go out with her. DON'T talk about the EX and drink a little. If you guys are good together, you won't remember your ex. If she honestly makes you forget your ex, tear it up. TRUST ME, have fun! If you catch yourself thinking of your ex, don't do it. Keep the friendship intact.

The reason I say it is simple: If you hang with this chick and she makes you happy and you forget about your ex while you are with her, go for it! She may be the one for you. I know from experience.

If you ever need someone to talk to you can always PM me. I am here for ya Prime.

[G-Prime]

Truth is, the older you get, the harder is. Guy and girls snag the good ones before they are gone.

Try going on dates. OKCupid.com, Match.com, Craigslist.com...

Eh not ready for all that.. and I usually look at cragslist just for a laugh I can't imagine ever dating someone off craigslist ;p

Only reason I'm even considering this girl, is it will take my mind off things and I've known her for years.. Think everyone is right though.. I got some things in my life I can work on and improve on. Just been trying to be an all around nicer guy.

[GoSkins561]

:applause:

It took me about 6 months to be able to trust another woman but in time it will happen bro. just try to stay busy and keep yourself occupied. do NOT call her if you are drunk!!

I would add, do not call her ever, especially when you are drunk, either way you will regret it. As others have said, stay busy, go out on other dates and move on.

[Forehead]

Eh not ready for all that.. and I usually look at cragslist just for a laugh I can't imagine ever dating someone off craigslist ;p

For a twist, how about this. As I said in Ren's "10 Things" thread, I often browse personal ads out of sheer curiosity. I won't answer one because I'm married, but I'm always curious about these people, their stories, why they decided to put themselves out there online, etc.

Once you've collected yourself, how about letting the rest of us pick who you go out with based on who we find.;)

Kidding...unless you really want to let us guide your future.:cheers:

[Drop]

You'll be alright G. Me personally, i'd take your friend up on the offer to go out. Not saying you gotta have sex with her, but at least go out, drink a little and take your mind off of things.

But if you have any interest whatsoever in the girl that wants to go out with you, don't get into dating her right away. She will become the rebound chick, and believe me, they never stay around. If she's a friend now, it'll end up destroying that. So just go out and have a decent time with her. Sex isn't really what you want right now anyway, you just need someone to listen and hear where you're coming from.

Give it time. Another relationship with amazing sex will emerge my friend.

[Skinz4Life12]

For a twist, how about this. As I said in Ren's "10 Things" thread, I often browse personal ads out of sheer curiosity. I won't answer one because I'm married, but I'm always curious about these people, their stories, why they decided to put themselves out there online, etc.

Once you've collected yourself, how about letting the rest of us pick who you go out with based on who we find.;)

Kidding...unless you really want to let us guide your future.:cheers:

your wife knows you do this?

[Forehead]

your wife knows you do this?

I don't make any effort to hide anything, because she has nothing to worry about. Hell, when my wife and I are out at restaurants or a bar, she likes to play the "real or fake" game as much as I do.:cool:

If you read the 10 things thread, I'm apparently not the only person who does this. Like I said, it's really just a curiosity thing, I have no interest in meeting any of these people or screwing around.

[sacase]

I have to agree with the other part. If she just came out the blue with this then she is seeing or has met someone else. As far as meeting women who are not crazy....If you are in the DMV...that ain't gonna happen.

Personal advice....Stick you thang in any attractive female that will let you. Meaningless sex is great and makes you forget a whole lot. Don't date seriously for a while, just have fun with people. However, make sure they understand that you are looking for fun. You would be amazed at the amout of women out there who are down for meaningless sex. Just be upfront about yours. Just don't get caught up in the pity party of you sitting at home by yourself thinking about her. If you catch yourself doing that, go out and do SOMETHING.

[Opiate-Zeo]

Sorry bro, I know what it's like. I have to agree with the others that say she probably has something to hide. If there is honestly no reason that this would happen, and her reasoning is that she can't trust you, then she's doing something.

Either way, try to move on as soon as possible. The faster you can get her out of your mind, the easier your life will become. I'm sure it will be hard for a while. I don't think you should just go bang anyone you can right now. Give yourself some time before jumping in the sack. But, by all means go out. Enjoy yourself as much as you can and try to keep her off your mind as much as possible.

Also, I will reiterate that you should never call her...especially drunk.

[STBonecrusher21]

At least I get to save some money

Haha.

That a boy G. You're gonna be alright. It'll take time of course, but you'll bounce back, I'm sure of it.

[G-Prime]

I appreciate it guys.. thank you.

[pmd1856]

Personal advice....Stick you thang in any attractive female that will let you. Meaningless sex is great and makes you forget a whole lot.


It's true.

[jrockster21]

you really should print this up and take it with you every place you go.

That **** is like a band-aid, just rip it off. No use pining over it.

[BigMike619]

That **** is like a band-aid, just rip it off. No use pining over it.

yeah but in the beginning you need a constant reminder. or at least i did. once i got in to a pattern it was easier to get her out of my mind.


but if youll excuse me I have a phone call to make. :cheers:

[diesel22]

The girlfriend and I broke up after a year and engagement.. I feel utterly destroyed. She won't even hear about trying to work things out and I have no idea why, she says she doesn't trust me not to hurt her, but I haven't done anything to hurt her in the first place. I've never really been heart broken before. This is an entirely new area for me and I have no clue how to handle it. I guess it'll go away, people get heart broken every day right? Guess all I got now is time.

In any event I told a friend of mine who happens to be a girl what's happened, she's been kind of chomping at the bit to go out with me and she wants to go out with me tomorrow night and "take my mind off it".. I'm wondering if maybe it wouldn't be a bad thing to have some meaningless sex with a chick I trust. I dunno.

Get naked with the friend.

I would say - if the ex says she can't trust you and you truly have done nothing to justify it - there is about a 90% chance she is the one who can't be trusted and is projecting her dirt on you.

[IbleedBnG83]

If you have guy friends, take a trip somewher. Vegas, Montreal, Mexico...some where to take your mind of things.

Maybe my story will help you some...

I was with my ex for 6 years. Basically since we were 16. I had joined the Army so I was away for half of those six years. Essentially, we were physically together for 3 years but dating those six with small breaks in between. We were certain to be together forever.

To make a long story short, I had broken up with her. She was devastated. She was crazy emotional and I took it hard. Being by myself after so many years in a relationship was hard. I wanted to crawl back to her, but I wouldn't have it. We really had to cut ties in order to really get over each other. ***No mater what anyone says, its impossible/stupid/pointless to stay friends with someone you cared about so much***

I never really thought I would find someone like her. But my reasons were as such that I didn't think we would have lasted. Out of the blue, when I least expected it, I met my now fiance. We have been together almost 3 years and have been living with each other for 2. This relationship is 10x better than with my ex. No comparison. I am so much happier. Come to find out, my ex is engaged too. She just bought a house with her now fiance. I don't talk to her but I found out from her brother.

Point: There is always someone else. If it wasn't meant to be, then its not meant to be. The worst thing you can do is continue to be sad over her. Cut her off completely and move on. Have fun. Remember, there are good things about being single. Get back in shape, read a book, write a book, do whatever you want whenever you want. Before you know it, you will have a new luck future Mrs. G-Prime in your life.

[jthor99]

Sorry to here about your breakup.

I'm not the best at giving such heartache advice, but I certainly will give it a shot. As others have mentioned hopefully you have a good circle of friends, and hopefully you have one of them who can relate to your situation. The best thing you can do is simply to not dwell on the situation.

Sure, it may be tough, but the best thing to do is to simply distract yourself with other things. Hobbies are always a good thing to have. Or if you don't have one try to pick one up. But, at the very least go out saturday night, and be around single women on Valentines Day. It will make you feel better just in general. It's just a bonus if you bring something home after a few cocktails.

[CaptChaos86]

It looks like you got all the advise you need right here. My ex left me about a year ago and it has taken along time to get over it. We were engaged and living together, the whole 9 yards. So it really broke me down when we split, but once you feel like you hit rock bottom the only way to go is up. Ive finally started playing music again and have a band that is doing well, and just met a really awesome girl who im going out with saturday. So just hang in there man and enjoy the single life. And just think about how you can do whatever the hell you want when you want.

[DCSaints_fan]

Well if you'ore serious about getting married, probably want to avoid the booty call until the wedding night. Never been close with a woman, but I think that will be my plan.

[TK]

She won't even hear about trying to work things out and I have no idea why, she says she doesn't trust me not to hurt her, but I haven't done anything to hurt her in the first place.
Think I have anger issues. (http://www.extremeskins.com/showthread.php?t=277782)

That right there may play more into things then you even realise. Then again, maybe not. But it might be worth thinking about.

[G-Prime]

Think I have anger issues. (http://www.extremeskins.com/showthread.php?t=277782)

That right there may play more into things then you even realise. Then again, maybe not. But it might be worth thinking about.

She's never seen that before from me.. I don't generally act that way around her.. My main anger issue was with ignorance. People that know better but still do and say stupid ****. I'm not a yeller, I'm a talker. She has zero reason to be afraid of me.

[chipwhich]

Look back at the thread where you introduced the love of your life to extremeskins. Read the ladies comments. Rinse, repeat.

Have fun with your new friend.

[redskins0756]

The girlfriend and I broke up after a year and engagement.. I feel utterly destroyed. She won't even hear about trying to work things out and I have no idea why, she says she doesn't trust me not to hurt her, but I haven't done anything to hurt her in the first place. I've never really been heart broken before. This is an entirely new area for me and I have no clue how to handle it. I guess it'll go away, people get heart broken every day right? Guess all I got now is time.

In any event I told a friend of mine who happens to be a girl what's happened, she's been kind of chomping at the bit to go out with me and she wants to go out with me tomorrow night and "take my mind off it".. I'm wondering if maybe it wouldn't be a bad thing to have some meaningless sex with a chick I trust. I dunno.

Was there something specific that triggered the breakup?

[idahoskinsfan27]

I feel you bro, My gf broke our relationship off a month ago. We had been dating for two years and she gave me no official reason, just the typical "I want to be alone." The first week was horrible considering the situation, but also because we kept talking and the feelings were clearly one sided. But I decided to break off contact after that and it gets better each day trust me. Some people just change though, she used to be so against me drinking and even threatening to break up with me if I did, but since the break up I hear she has been going to parties and getting #$%#faced. I guess that's what I get for dating a hypocritical woman. And speaking of that girl, I would just see what happens with her.
The storm is always the darkest before the break. Or something like that.
:cheers:


But if you can get her naked, I would say the storm must be breaking. haha. YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYIN.

[Koolblue13]

My girl told me she was moving out 3 weeks(ish) ago. Month and a half before the lease was done.

We are going on our first (take 3) date tomorrow night. I'm surprise taking her to the Monster Trucks tomorrow for Vday.

[idahoskinsfan27]

Koolblue I'd read your situation in the other breakup thread, but that's good to hear one of us actually are going on a date with the girl that composed them to post in these threads. Don't @#$% it up. haha

Really though, good for you.
:cheers:

[G-Prime]

Hey just thought I'd give everyone an update.. I'm doing fine, she left yesterday and I realize this morning it's for the very best..

Since I'm in her friends list on facebook, I received a notice that she's now in a relationship with her old boyfriend. This has actually made things easier somehow. I feel she is pathetic and honestly it'd be a waste of time to exhaust any more emotion on such trash.

Man I should've listened to Blondie lol

[Koolblue13]

Koolblue I'd read your situation in the other breakup thread, but that's good to hear one of us actually are going on a date with the girl that composed them to post in these threads. Don't @#$% it up. haha

Really though, good for you.
:cheers:

Thanks. It's over now. We had a date last night and it went great until the end.

She needs space and time to regroup. We move out of the old house Monday.

I work directly across the street from her new house, walk the dog past her house and right under her window. I'll see her twice a day.:(

[Stew]

I say go on the date. This woman who is chomping at the bit to go out with you is a great way to reafirm your confidence after a loss like that. It will hurt for a while, but you will be stronger for it. This woman that wants to go out with you may have genuine feelings and that may or may not be a bad thing. Take your time though, this isn'tthe space race, so don't you be rushin.... ya get me?

[CandaceM23]

G - I'm sorry to hear that things went sour .... No one deserves to be treated badly .... I'm sorry to hear that she's back with an old boyfriend, but I think that it's a good thing that you know what is going on. It might be easier for you to accept things and move on knowing what kind of person she really is.

I know that it's such a cliche' thing to say - but it seems like you're going to be much better off without her.

[CandaceM23]

I work directly across the street from her new house, walk the dog past her house and right under her window. I'll see her twice a day.:(

Kool, I'm sorry to hear about your news too. Sucks. Broken hearts are the worst. Maybe you should try to avoid her at all costs for a while .... Try not to walk the dog past her house - it could possibly only make things even harder. :( Just try to keep your head up .... Things WILL get better.

[Forehead]

Since I'm in her friends list on facebook, I received a notice that she's now in a relationship with her old boyfriend. This has actually made things easier somehow. I feel she is pathetic and honestly it'd be a waste of time to exhaust any more emotion on such trash.

You're right, she is. This is a blessing in disguise for you. We're still here if you need to talk it out, but it sounds like you're doing fine.

[Koolblue13]

Kool, I'm sorry to hear about your news too. Sucks. Broken hearts are the worst. Maybe you should try to avoid her at all costs for a while .... Try not to walk the dog past her house - it could possibly only make things even harder. :( Just try to keep your head up .... Things WILL get better.

They always do. I have to focus on this guy for a bit and not just find another girl. Take the time and regroup. It's what I wanted to do anyway, now I just have to walk it alone.

Thanks C.

[G-Prime]

G - I'm sorry to hear that things went sour .... No one deserves to be treated badly .... I'm sorry to hear that she's back with an old boyfriend, but I think that it's a good thing that you know what is going on. It might be easier for you to accept things and move on knowing what kind of person she really is.

I know that it's such a cliche' thing to say - but it seems like you're going to be much better off without her.

Thanks Candace, you're absolutely right.. I actually feel pretty good and to be a little more cliche it's like a weight is off my shoulders.

[Reic]

Like there's a good time to do it.

This couldn't be farther from the truth. There are always good time's to break up, case in point my last relationship. I started to HATE talking to my girlfriend every single day, even texting, e-mail, or AIM, and I didn't want to get to the point where I resented her for just being her, so we ended the relationship mutually, and it was the best thing we could have done for ourselves.

G-prime, she was seeing another dude and felt guilty about it, I can guarantee that.


EDIT- Oh, right again :)

she got back with her old boyfriend, haha, that won't work, it never does. You will find someone better, brother. She didn't waste any ****ing time moving on did she? what a ***** move, no offense.

[G-Prime]

This couldn't be farther from the truth. There are always good time's to break up, case in point my last relationship. I started to HATE talking to my girlfriend every single day, even texting, e-mail, or AIM, and I didn't want to get to the point where I resented her for just being her, so we ended the relationship mutually, and it was the best thing we could have done for ourselves.

G-prime, she was seeing another dude and felt guilty about it, I can guarantee that.


EDIT- Oh, right again :)

she got back with her old boyfriend, haha, that won't work, it never does. You will find someone better, brother. She didn't waste any ****ing time moving on did she? what a ***** move, no offense.

None taken, it doesn't hurt my feelings that she's a whore. I mean you know if you want to be with someone else, whatever I get it. Gotta be a coward on your way out the door and lie about it? Glad I found out now

[Westbrook36]

She's boning some other guy.

[Cassow]

She's boning some other guy.

You're a class act WB36. :rolleyes:

[Tut77]

G--
Sorry to hear about your situation, but we've all been there before. As everyone has said, it may take a while, but you'll be fine.

I don't mean to sound cold or callous, and I know it's really painful to you, but the moves she made, she did for herself, not to harm you. She just wanted to go in a different direction in her life, so she did. Unfortunately, the direction she chose created pain for you. I know it's natural to feel angered at the ex and it makes us feel better to slander them, but I think in the long run keeping that anger/ hostility towards her will just be more detrimental to you. If she was a B-- or a whore, you wouldn't have loved her in the first place, right?

Whether her new relationship works or not, it has nothing to do with you and no impact on your life or your future. I wouldn't say something as simple as 'just forget about her,' cuz I know that's not really possible, but....your life stretches out before you. All sorts of things, good and bad, that you've never even yet imagined. Stay strong. Be free. Find constructive ways to occupy your time. Let her be free and try not to think about her too much. No need to call her or email or anything like that. And if she calls, don't pick up--it never turns out the way you hope/expect. You'll be fine.

[kuraitengai]

Great Timing.....Always breakup prior to v day or bdays.
dont forget about christmas either. i have only dated one person in my entire life on any of those days. and that turned out to be a mistake. lol

but it also helps if you never date anyone longer than 3 months.

[Henry]

This couldn't be farther from the truth. There are always good time's to break up, case in point my last relationship. I started to HATE talking to my girlfriend every single day, even texting, e-mail, or AIM, and I didn't want to get to the point where I resented her for just being her, so we ended the relationship mutually, and it was the best thing we could have done for ourselves.

I think you guys are missing my point. I didn't say there's never a good REASON to break up. I said there's never a good TIME to break up ... as in, 'time of year' or 'day of the week' or 'time of day' ... or whatever.

For the one who gets broken up with the timing will suck no matter what.

That doesn't mean the breakup wasn't ultimately a good thing. I think in GP's case this girl did him a favor.

[Mickalino]

I think you guys are missing my point. I didn't say there's never a good REASON to break up. I said there's never a good TIME to break up ... as in, 'time of year' or 'day of the week' or 'time of day' ... or whatever.

For the one who gets broken up with the timing will suck no matter what.

That doesn't mean the breakup wasn't ultimately a good thing. I think in GP's case this girl did him a favor.


Well, to be fair, in my original statement I was not implying that there was a good "time" either. By stating that it was a "horrible" time, that meant that there was "bad", "very bad", "horrible", etc......some are worse than others.

[Koolblue13]

2 months before moving to a new home with my girl, she says she is moving without me inside of two weeks. I had no money at the time and didn't see it coming.

How's that for timing.

[Tut77]

Bad timing stories...my turn.

Several years ago, my gf at the time came to my parents' house for Christmas. (She was a dancer and had been on tour for about 6 months). She came on Christmas eve and I was a little apprehensive because signs of a breakup had started showing up in our conversations (and lack thereof). But she brought lots of presents for everyone and was very cool and basically acting like her normal self. On Christmas morning, she told me that she was dating some guy she was on tour with.

[Westbrook36]

You're a class act WB36. :rolleyes:

I posted my response before reading anything other than the original post. Turns out I was right. It was pretty obvious.

[Bubble Screen]

I posted my response before reading anything other than the original post. Turns out I was right. It was pretty obvious.

Either way, it was still a **** move. Grow up.

[Westbrook36]

Its an internet messageboard. When you post up your personal life, people are going to post their personal opinions as to what happened.

[Prosperity]

broke up with my girl friend few days ago. Saved money on Valentines day, but the couples are annoying me... I mean even at the gym they are there with their sappiness.

[no1fanofno21]

if your ****ing a girl a day after then the first relationship didnt mean **** to begin with imo. flirt, play around but dont go out and **** some easy ass

[georgiaredskin]

Hey just thought I'd give everyone an update.. I'm doing fine, she left yesterday and I realize this morning it's for the very best..

Since I'm in her friends list on facebook, I received a notice that she's now in a relationship with her old boyfriend. This has actually made things easier somehow. I feel she is pathetic and honestly it'd be a waste of time to exhaust any more emotion on such trash.

Man I should've listened to Blondie lol

Wow, G-Prime. I am so sorry to read your thread, and now to read this. My heart breaks whenever I see another heart breaking, especially an ES brother (and it reminds me of my past heartbreaks).

If someone can do this cold, callous act to you, IMO, they can do it to someone else. I pray that you heal as quickly and fully as physically possible, and that time only strengthens the notion of what a true blessing in disguise this initially terrible event is.

[abdcskins]

Well fella sorry to hear that. I've been heart-broken twice in my life, and it hurts like a bastard. It will get better, but to be honest I still think about both girls probably every other day. But I'm a weirdo. Just remember that there are plenty of girls and that there is an even better one waiting for you out there. You might feel lonely(hell I feel lonely all the time, including now), so try to go hang with the homies or play basketball, or whatever you do to take your mind off her. You'll be alright.

[tryfuhl]

The girlfriend and I broke up after a year and engagement.. I feel utterly destroyed. She won't even hear about trying to work things out and I have no idea why, she says she doesn't trust me not to hurt her, but I haven't done anything to hurt her in the first place. I've never really been heart broken before. This is an entirely new area for me and I have no clue how to handle it. I guess it'll go away, people get heart broken every day right? Guess all I got now is time.

In any event I told a friend of mine who happens to be a girl what's happened, she's been kind of chomping at the bit to go out with me and she wants to go out with me tomorrow night and "take my mind off it".. I'm wondering if maybe it wouldn't be a bad thing to have some meaningless sex with a chick I trust. I dunno.

Welp, the way I see it is

1) You did something that hurt her bad or
2) She did something that would break your trust and preemptively broke up with you

Mad chicks do **** like that.. it's the same with cheating, they accuse you when you're the one doing it

Chances are there were some skeletons in her closet and it's probably better that you don't find out about them.

Best wishes bro :cheers:

[Blondie]

Hey just thought I'd give everyone an update.. I'm doing fine, she left yesterday and I realize this morning it's for the very best..

Since I'm in her friends list on facebook, I received a notice that she's now in a relationship with her old boyfriend. This has actually made things easier somehow. I feel she is pathetic and honestly it'd be a waste of time to exhaust any more emotion on such trash.

Man I should've listened to Blondie lol

Yep.

;)

OK G. How about you tell my boyfriend that exact thing? Might keep us from going through so much confusion. LOL

[G-Prime]

Yep.

;)

OK G. How about you tell my boyfriend that exact thing? Might keep us from going through so much confusion. LOL

Cuz stubborn southern women need to listen too ;p.

[Kosher Ham]

That's why I would never date a girl that was still friendly with her ex for very long.

I think it is Chris Rock that says this (PG-13)... That is a just in case...break the glass.

[jrockster21]

EDIT- Oh, right again :)


She's boning some other guy.

Ha, I called it first. Sorry G, sucks, but such is life. You'll eventually realize it was for the best with hindsight (regardless of the boning another dude), as you look back and examine the relationship. Just enjoy being single for now.


Either way, it was still a **** move. Grow up.

Eh, I gotta agree with Westy on this one. Also, G's a man, he can take it.

[jrockster21]

That's why I would never date a girl that was still friendly with her ex for very long.

I think it is Chris Rock that says this (PG-13)... That is a just in case...break the glass.

Ha! That is pretty funny, but I have to disagree. There are only two reasons for a girl to stray - 1) she's a whore, or 2) you're not "treating" her right*. If she cheats because of #1, then its good to know that she's a whore and get her out of your life. If she cheats because of #2, she's a ***** and its good to know and get her out of your life (those are the sort of things that should be talked about).

*yes, "treating" is a euphemism. ;)

[frommd]

Valentine's Day.....what a horrible time to breakupAt least it was a couple days before. Years ago, my ex-fiance broke up with me after three years together on Valentine's Day at my friends wedding. I was heartbroken.

But, eventually you get over it. I moved down to Miami, met a girl who was much better for me, we got married, and just had our second daughter three weeks ago.

I don't look back with regret about the first girl anymore except that she wasted my time in meeting my wife.

[DCSaints_fan]

I think you guys are missing my point. I didn't say there's never a good REASON to break up. I said there's never a good TIME to break up ... as in, 'time of year' or 'day of the week' or 'time of day' ... or whatever.

For the one who gets broken up with the timing will suck no matter what.


Fridays? At least they won't have to go to work the next day.

[MrMarcus1914]

There is no such thing as meaningless sex. To women it always means something. And if you think you can hit it and quit it do it once and that's it. And don't put it on her. Just bust a nut and bounce. Take it from me. Been there done that.

[desioreo87]

If you have done nothing wrong as you say then this girl has some issues with men in her past. There a quite a few girls who have trouble committing to a guy if they have experienced or were close to a bad a break up in which a guy either broke trust or was very untrustworthy and so they have a hard time picturing an outcome that is anything less than bleak.

[Thirtyfive2seven]

Having been through something similar in July of 08 I understand what you are going through. It is TOUGH. Just keep doing things to keep your mind off the situation. Hang out with friends, and start making good on your promises to work out and/or take up a hobby. Try to focus on all of the positives in your life and the negatives won't seem nearly as bad. Trust me :) I received such great advice from people here.

Whatever you do try not to get into any drinking habits that could be counterproductive down the line. If you need to chat I'm here.

[Touchdown Redskins]

Hey man, I feel your pain. I didn't read through the entire thread yet, but I will in a little. I just wanted to drop off this golden nugget for getting over a break-up: get your ass to the gym. It will make you feel so much better about yourself and your life, and honestly, the endorphins released from working out will make you happier.

I know it sounds corny, but the gym has kept me sane through many a break-up.

[G-Prime]

Hey man, I feel your pain. I didn't read through the entire thread yet, but I will in a little. I just wanted to drop off this golden nugget for getting over a break-up: get your ass to the gym. It will make you feel so much better about yourself and your life, and honestly, the endorphins released from working out will make you happier.

I know it sounds corny, but the gym has kept me sane through many a break-up.

Doing that tonight.. I need to do something positive for myself.

[MrMarcus1914]

Don't do it. There is no such thing as casual sex. Women are like cats. You feed them good one time, and they stay.

[jrockster21]

Don't do it. There is no such thing as casual sex. Women are like cats. You feed them good one time, and they stay.

False.

[Stophovr6]

Don't do it. There is no such thing as casual sex. Women are like cats. You feed them good one time, and they stay.

I think you're thinking of dogs. You can feed a cat once and it will **** in your bed, scratch your face and leave you to go live in an alley.

[G-Prime]

I think you're thinking of dogs. You can feed a cat once and it will **** in your bed, scratch your face and leave you to go live in an alley.

Think that's all I really need, my dog, a case of beer and a fishing pole.

[Smiley's "rootin"]

Dont call her, Dont whine to her, Dont do it! Its over dude, move on...
Stay busy, go fishing, take the other girl out get a snarling and move on to the next one.
There is nothing worse. Be a man, dont let it break you down.
I have seen a lot of buddys just witther away.
Your a Skins fan your tough hang in there!!!!

[[[ghost]]]

I'm going through about the same thing. I feel your pain.

I wish I was half as courageous as you. I'm taking this a lot worse than you are. You are inspirational. :cheers:

[G-Prime]

];6132558']I'm going through about the same thing. I feel your pain.

I wish I was half as courageous as you. I'm taking this a lot worse than you are. You are inspirational. :cheers:

I dunno if you're refering to me or not? But I don't think I'm all that inspirational. I was hurting pretty bad and felt like I've just been blindsided by a buick. Luckily she made it real easy for me to move on and get over and I can't honestly say that I'm over it yet.. I still walk through the house and see her standing there, brushing her hair, or sitting at her desk.

The worst part is the silence, the lack of activity when she's not here, the breaking of the routines we used to have.. I still haven't slept on her side of the bed.

[ttr77]

Yep...looks like I'm in the same boat. After 4 years and a house purchase.

Fun times, huh?

[G-Prime]

Yep...looks like I'm in the same boat. After 4 years and a house purchase.

Fun times, huh?

Ever get to frederick lemme know.. drinks are on me

[ttr77]

Ever get to frederick lemme know.. drinks are on me

I may take you up on that one... :cheers:

[G-Prime]

I may take you up on that one... :cheers:

Anytime brother