This guy needs advice about a girl(girl advice especially welcome)UPDATE!

[RichmondRedskin88]

So I meet this girl about a year ago in a spirit group at my university. We became good friends especially through standing out in lines waiting to get into games. Well over the first couple of months we seemly got closer and closer and we had long conversations. Like we talked one time for like 4 hours straight. Well I eventually decided I would tell her that I really liked her hoping she would give me a chance to be more than a good friends. I think we had known each other for over 4 months at that point. Well she told me that she didn't think we knew enough about each other and that she still was getting over a bad relationship. This was kinda of a punch in the heart seeing as my last 4 relationships have ended because the girl other cheated or just became a absolute ***** who treated me like crap. Well I recovered but there's this awkward feeling between us now that that was out there. Well last night a friend told me we were visiting a friend with the same name. I didn't realize it was her because she had just moved to a new place that I hadn't been too. So I show up and soon as I saw her everything just came back and hit me all over again!!! I thought I was over it but now my mind has been just tangled with thoughts of her.

What the hell do I do? Do I say something even after what happened before or do I just move on? Or something else?

All I know is I need advice

UPDATE: Apparently her best friend and my best friend have been talking. The girl has been through so many bad relationships her best friend thinks shes afraid to risk going out with a supposed "nice guy" because all of them were nice guys who turned A hole on her.

I should have mentioned for those saying you would be hitting it in a month or whatever if she was in to me she's got the whole major christian thing(which I have no prob being catholic myself) going on but she definitely got a party side as do most college students

So it sounds like she doing the whole "if I don't someone close they can't hurt me" thing.

[skinsaddict]

show it to her

[SpringfieldSkins]

Act like nothing every happened, or at least try to. Just act friendly. Don't immediately gravitate to her. Don't show her that you still like her.


She knows what you told her. If she feels the same way, she'll let you know.

[G.A.C.O.L.B.]

In my opinion and experience, when you swing and miss like that, it's over. That's a wrap. There is no putting the genie back in the bottle. Move on and forget her. Friendship and all.

[No Excuses]

It's over dude, don't waste your time. Been in your exact position before (are we thinking of the same girl at VCU LOL). Forget it man, if it didn't happen then, it most likely won't happen now.

[Kosher Ham]

Gotta agree with the two Wiz guys on this one.

You might have gotten a better feel for it if you showed up with a girl. But most likely you fell into the friend zone and it's hard to get out of without certain circumstances.

[Bubble Screen]

She's Just Not That Into You


Yeah, its the name of a cheesy movie. But it appears to be the case here.

Move on.

[Special K]

Unfortunately, methinks she's just not that into you.

She sees you as a friend and I suspect that is where it is going to stay. Forever. Move on and forget about her.

[renaissance]

After 4 months hanging out if you have to tell a girl that you like her, it's not gonna happen. If she liked you, you would have been doing it long before that.

[Spanky22]

Sorry man, but you got stuck on the 'friend' ladder (google the ladder theory if you dont know what Im talking about). Most of us have been there at one point. Basically, she sees you as friend and emotional confidant, but not in a romantic way. That is very unlikely to change. Time to move on.

It sucks, dude. Move on and try to end up on the other ladder with the next one.

[zskins]

I really don't see why you can't just go to her and say hey I really like you and it is more then just being a friend. And want to ask you to go out with me. So she says no. But upfront you tell her hey it is how I feel about you and that doesn't mean you have the same feelings about me. But if I didn't ask then I wouldn't know what you think about me. In the end you tell her if she is cool with it you guys can still be friends.

Girls like honesty and someone who doesn't beat around the bush.

[RonBurgundy&Gold]

You are probably a nice guy that would move mountains for her....not interesting enough for a lady these days.

Move on...and just hope her next relationship is really bad, because thats what she deserves.

Its always "I can't meet a good guy" yadda yadda, yet they find one and push them to the side.

[Burgold]

I'd say if you feel strongly enough for about it. Take one more swing. Find a time where you are together and ask. If she balks or says no, then move on and don't look back. At least you know you've given it an honest shot.

But I wouldn't wait for a moment. It's now or never.

(well, it's never never, but it'll be pretty darn close to never)

[Capt Rich Fla]

The only thing left to do is get er alone a whip it out. It's either going to happen or it aint.

[GoSkins561]

I mean seriously, don't ever tell a girl you like her, if there is chemistry, you will both know it. If anything, (next time)keep it simple and say, "let's get dinner and a movie one day this week, does thursday or friday work for you?". Saying "I really like you" creates awkwardness and shows a lack of confidence.