Advice on Dating a Muslim Girl

[Thiebear]

I spent a year with one that spoke 5 languages and hated Muslim men: Talk to her, she'll clue you in pretty fast on what is and isn't going to happen.

[mistertim]

I spent a year with one that spoke 5 languages and hated Muslim men: Talk to her, she'll clue you in pretty fast on what is and isn't going to happen.

Wait...are you advocating open and honest communication? What sorcery is this??

[DC9]

Well, if she's not wearing the hijab she's probably not that conservative ... But I'm betting

1) you aren't getting any of that ... without marrying her
2) the only way you can marry her is to convert, or else she risks being disowned by her family/community

Might be better to find these things out (in a diplomatic way, of course) before trying to take things too far

Both not true. I have personal experience with this.

Just be yourself. She is American and in America... most any culture that comes to America wants to hold on to their culture, but ultimately they come to America for a reason.... because they want to be American.

You have to ask yourself what you want out of this, number one. And you have to keep in mind that if it progresses (it being VERY early) that one day you both may have huge differences in how you want to raise your kids.

Just take it in stride and be yourself, but keep all that in mind. Same as with any other chick.

[AsburySkinsFan]

As a person of faith albeit not Islam, I'd strongly suggest you respect her faith as much as she does if you can't do that then get walking. Don't act like her faith is irrelevant in your relationship, because it isn't irrelevant if it is relevant to her.

As a father who wants the best spiritually for my daughter I'd wonder why you were considering a relationship with a woman that you didn't share faith with.

[Rocky21]

Why are you guys trying to marry 8181 off?

He's just dating for Pete's sake.

[Rdskn4Lyf21]

Depends. Are you two related?

Actually we're not...I guess this won't work out

[USS Redskins]

Dont burn a koran.

[Thiebear]

Dont burn a koran.

Don't assume she would care.

[SackMachine]

Don't paint her a picture of Mohammed as a gift.
Tell her you frequent a website called extremeskins.

[Sweet Sassy Molassy]

Buy her some bean pies, and do nothing but talk about how much you love Louis Farrakhan.

[Lombardi's_kid_brother]

I dated one Muslim girl and had friendships with a few others.

I'm assuming that she is not conservative, because if she was, she may not be speaking to you let alone dating you.

So...treat her like anyone else. And try not to be a racist ass who thinks that all Muslims are dark-skinned, because you are going to get yourself in trouble doing that.

[DiscoBob]

I think it's a little bit naive to say "be yourself, don't assume anything, be open, etc".

Islam as a faith is can be very violent to people that they view as traders to the faith. I recognize that there are other examples of this outside of Islam, I'm not trying to get into some sort of comparative discussion. However, at this point, this is a somewhat common occurrence in the Muslim world. Understanding what you are getting yourself into is a good idea. I wouldn't assume tons about her family at first, but I would make it a point to find out that information before you get too far into it.

[mistertim]

Islam as a faith is can be very violent to people that they view as traders to the faith.

So you're saying Muslims are anti-free market?

[Symbol]

As a person of faith albeit not Islam, I'd strongly suggest you respect her faith as much as she does if you can't do that then get walking. Don't act like her faith is irrelevant in your relationship, because it isn't irrelevant if it is relevant to her.

As a father who wants the best spiritually for my daughter I'd wonder why you were considering a relationship with a woman that you didn't share faith with.

So ASF, you're saying that I'm a bad man for being with my girlfriend and seriously talking to her about starting a family, even though we have different "spiritual" beliefs, her being Lutheran and me being Buddhist? Oh no, well guess, even though I respect you, not going to go with that advice.

As for the OP, the next time you're alone with her, just ask her questions, first about her and then what she believes. If she asks you why, just tell her that you're interested in getting to know her better, because you really do like her. This solves a lot of problems, and you have the fact that if she is a normal woman, she's going to want to talk about herself to you anyway and will like you more because you're wanting to get to know her more.

[KingGibbs]

I can't believe all these posts and the most important question hasn't been asked.

Do you have a picture of her?

Also, does she use toilet paper?