thank you for all of the input!! and i am sorry to have lobbed out the question and then disappeared.... my house turned into a Vomitoreum right after i started this thread
2 of my 3 children were violently ill.... and then it passed on to my wife.
at this point I have to view myself (and my oldest daughter) as ticking timebombs. I am not positive WHEN this is going to happen... just that it is coming soon