It's probably more akin to poker. (I should probably specify for any ladies reading this thread that no disrespect is meant in any way by anything said)
You sometimes get dealt poor hands (Never had a chance with her anyway)
Sometimes you have to fold (Just walking away)
You need strategy most of the time (Have to beat out all the other suitors)
Sometimes you'll have a great hand and someone will still beat you (You pull out all the stops, are funny, charming, generally the greatest guy within miles, and yet you still lose to some dude)
Sometimes you'll win but the pot will be smaller than preferred (A girl who you're not attracted to starts hitting on you)
In the end, you keep playing and hope for a winning hand, but unless you've been lucky enough to get good hands every deal, you've got to put a lot of effort into it, and recognize you'll lose a lot of hands.
Man this analogy is depressing. I was playing poker not too long ago and seriously bled chips for 2 straight hours without a single POSSIBLE winning hand. Seriously, every time I folded I'd remember what I had and if it would have won...not once, over like 50 hands. Didn't help that probably 40 of those hands were some combination of lower cards just out of reach of a straight (2,7 all day), off suit. Fun times.
Two points I would like to make:
1. If your asking ES advice about hollaring at a girl, she will not be interested in you.
2. If she hasn't spoken to you yet, she probably never will.
There is a girl I know here on island who when I try and talk to her, the eye contact feels like electric and my words stumble. I hate that feeling.
"Imagination was given to man to compensate for what he is not, and a sense of humor to console him for what he is." - Sir Bacon
When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.-Jimi Hendrix
For all you know this chick could be a complete dumbass *****. Just ask her out and stop putting her on a pedestal.
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Sidenote: just talk to her. If you don't it will just end up bugging in the end and perhaps over the holidays if you are that into this girl.
Don't make me come to your class, find this girl and say " I'm a dude from a Redskin discussion board who that dude obver there is also apart of and apparently wants to eventually marry you. What do you say?"
Last edited by RichmondRedskin88; December-6th-2012 at 08:19 AM.
All I can say, is that I had a crush on my wife for about four years before I got the courage up to ask her out.
Just do it already. This girl is probably thinking, "I wish that guys would say something to me."
Yeah you've hyped this chick up too much in your head. Just talk to her ask her what she thought of the class? is there a final coming up? is she taking the second half of the class next semester (if there is one, if not is she taking something similar). You have the class in common start with that once you lead into the convo if she is intersted you will know. Again the worst thing that happens is she blows you off...oh well move on
Oh and keep us posted
Last edited by Warpath11; December-6th-2012 at 08:40 AM.
Since he doesn't know her, she could be the biggest ***** in the world, married, engaged, transvestite, etc. The only way he's gonna get to know her is to talk to her. Being scared to talk to women is silly to me. I had really good luck with girls though, so confidence was never an issue for me. Plus, I met my wife begining of my senior year in high school, so she was the last gal I dated starting at age 17. But I had a ton of girlfriends dates in that 3 year span until I met my wife, but I know, its a lot different than his situation. I can't imagine having to date in college or afterwards. Anyhow, my friends continued this practice well into college and its always worked. So it works at all levels
With that said though, I remember telling my friend that introduced me and the wife to hook me up (I had drove my ex-girlfriend and wife to the library after school). She came back and said, "She said she has a boyfriend." My reply, "Tell her I have a girlfriend and we can cheat together." After that, I started trying to hook-up with another chick that walked by me in the cafeteria litterally a minute earlier. It was two weeks later, my friend came back to me and handed me my wifes phone number. What had happened was she never told my wife who she was trying to set her up with. She then asked her why she didn't want to go out with me and my wife said, you didnt tell me it was him. Feels like yesterday LOL, even though it was 20 years ago
Last edited by Dont Taze Me Bro; December-6th-2012 at 08:45 AM.
Ask her why she hasn't taken you out for drinks yet...
It will start a conversation.
It works, and breaks the ice.
Thanks for the sig LCSF
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Last edited by RichmondRedskin88; December-6th-2012 at 09:00 AM.
Ok, serious question.
Other than stalking her during class, have you ever even spoken to her? Like saying "hello"?
My advice is just talk to her like a normal human being. If you try to hollar at her, you might come off as desperate and that will just turn her off.
Pick up lines or anything witty to a girl in your class that you haven't talked to for the entire semester is lame as hell. You're going to look desperate and it'll be obvious that you're forcing the issue. There is practically nothing you can say in your opener or introduction to her that will make her say yes. If she wants to go with you, she'll say yes as long as you ask politely. Don't be corny.
Just ask her for coffee or drinks. If she says yes, just conversate with her like a normal human being. If she says no, move along there are plenty of others.
Last edited by No Excuses; December-6th-2012 at 09:42 AM.
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