Career advice, need opinions!

[AsburySkinsFan]

Worst case scenario is that its a trip to Charleston. I don't see the problem. Even if nothing comes of it (which doesn't sound like the case), what's the downside of going? Just go.

Exactly! GO! At the very least you've made a contact there, and if your long term plans are to relocate there then this could help greatly down the road even if this immediate opportunity doesn't come to fruition.

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When I moved from Indiana to Kentucky I set up meetings with three Distict Superintendents in Kentucky just to introduce myself in person. There were no guarrantees, and no expectation of any, but 6 months later I was appointed to my first church in Kentucky because of th networking I did prior.

Go.

[LadySkinsFan]

I'd go, if only because the recruiter encouraged you to come. Take the initiative and go visit, get the tour, check out the company as much as they are checking out you. That's the way I look at interviews, it's the chance to find out if you want to work for them after all. And even if they are collecting resumes, who do you think they'll look at when there's an opening, the people who come interview or the ones who didn't? Just don't make any moves with your present job or your wife's job until you have an offer letter and a start date.

I was in your shoes once at a company, got passed over for promotion because they knew I'd move to another job and they wanted to keep me where I was because I was good and produced the most work in my small group. I had to leave the company to get my well-deserved advancement. It seems you worked that out, since you are looking at other opportunities.

Good luck!

[benskins26]

I'd go, if only because the recruiter encouraged you to come. Take the initiative and go visit, get the tour, check out the company as much as they are checking out you. That's the way I look at interviews, it's the chance to find out if you want to work for them after all. And even if they are collecting resumes, who do you think they'll look at when there's an opening, the people who come interview or the ones who didn't? Just don't make any moves with your present job or your wife's job until you have an offer letter and a start date.

I was in your shoes once at a company, got passed over for promotion because they knew I'd move to another job and they wanted to keep me where I was because I was good and produced the most work in my small group. I had to leave the company to get my well-deserved advancement. It seems you worked that out, since you are looking at other opportunities.

Good luck!

To your first point, I think that makes sense. I feel like if I'm showing initiative without anything promised. If I'm the hiring manager, I think I would find that impressive.

As far as the second part, that really stinks. It's so cliched, but it happens, and it's a shame. And companies wonder why they lose top talent.

[hockeysc23]

To your first point, I think that makes sense. I feel like if I'm showing initiative without anything promised. If I'm the hiring manager, I think I would find that impressive.

As far as the second part, that really stinks. It's so cliched, but it happens, and it's a shame. And companies wonder why they lose top talent.

Just happened to me over the last couple of years. I liked my employer but was severely under paid at my level, working at the level above me made it even worse. I asked moderately or a 10% raise given the economy and they said they would try to take care of me and didn't. Then this year came, no bonus. I went applied got a couple different offers, my company found out and offered me a 35% raise and a lot of other stuff to stay. They could've saved $$ being proactive. It's been a good week

[benskins26]

Just happened to me over the last couple of years. I liked my employer but was severely under paid at my level, working at the level above me made it even worse. I asked moderately or a 10% raise given the economy and they said they would try to take care of me and didn't. Then this year came, no bonus. I went applied got a couple different offers, my company found out and offered me a 35% raise and a lot of other stuff to stay. They could've saved $$ being proactive. It's been a good week

Great story! Congrats man

[hockeysc23]

Great story! Congrats man

Thanks, I mean in the meantime I was applying to at least 2 jobs a night, updating my linkedin, networking with friends etc. It's a full time job but just keep at it and don't overlook any opportunity. One of the big offers I got that my company exceeded was for someone that was really interested, dropped off the face of the earth for 30 days then called me back 2 weeks ago for interview, and offer etc.

[armstrong001]

If you like the company you work for, and just want the advancement, you'll need to train your replacement so you aren't indespensable any longer. You're still valuable, but the business won't suffer from a performance dropoff.

If you want this new job, go ahead and make the trip. They don't want to waste their time any more than you want to waste yours. If they think they're going to hire in the next couple of months, you'd better get yourself on that short list. If you wait until its official, it may already be too late. ETA: it also shows your level of interest and commitment to travel that far based on something less than a final round of interviews before someone is actually hired.

[mrcunning15]

Pretty much I mean go in there knowing that there is a job available for you and don't get bog down by things out of your control I doubt the recruiter would be wasting both you and her time if there wasn't a job lined up. Think of it this way as well if they really like you and want you on their team they will make it happenI would tell your wife to hold up looking up real estate until you get the position though personally for me I don't like to worry about things or do stuff till i have to.

[benskins26]

This is all great advice guys! Thanks!

[hockeysc23]

This is all great advice guys! Thanks!

You are good enough, smart enough, and gosh darn it people like you! NOW GO GET 'EM! haha

[benskins26]

You are good enough, smart enough, and gosh darn it people like you! NOW GO GET 'EM! haha

Pretty sure Stuart Smiley never actually accomplished anything haha.

[Die Hard]

When ppl talk about their dreams and their pursuit... I like to ask them what are they willing to sacrifice for their dreams. It`s a loaded question.

You seem to not even want to give up some of your time to `kick the tires`. I think you need to re-evaluate your priorities.

[benskins26]

When ppl talk about their dreams and their pursuit... I like to ask them what are they willing to sacrifice for their dreams. It`s a loaded question.

You seem to not even want to give up some of your time to `kick the tires`. I think you need to re-evaluate your priorities.

I think that's a fair question. I'm definitely willing to do it in this case though- skipping the company christmas party to do so actually. I think this is more an issue of me getting my hopes up. I'm afraid to walk in there, love it, and not get an offer.

[Die Hard]

I think that's a fair question. I'm definitely willing to do it in this case though- skipping the company christmas party to do so actually. I think this is more an issue of me getting my hopes up. I'm afraid to walk in there, love it, and not get an offer.

Well then, that`s a completely different set of circumstances (ie. the emotion of anxiety) than soliciting career advice :-) No worries. I understand your anxiety and I hope it all works it for you.