How Do You Know When LOVE Is Lost?

[SemperFi Skins]

This is not from my own personal experience but with the divorce rates rising and sites like Ashley Madison claiming to fame... How do you know? Is it easy to tell?

The main reason I ask this is because one of my best buddies bought a new bed... went from a CA king down to a queen, and he is married. He said he and his wife were in agreement the bed was just too big for the space.

He then began to tell me that they rarely spend time in the bed anyways and they both do not like to touch while sleeping.

I'm a single guy, never married, but I strongly remember holding my GF tight while sleeping and always having some portion of our bodies touch, no matter the size of the bed. (I have a CA king as well)

Is it a telling sign when you do not touch in the bed or turn your backs to one another instead of snuggling/cuddling/spooning?

What about not displaying PDA's... are you ashamed?

So I ask this question... How do you know when the love is lost?

[AsburySkinsFan]

Studies are actually showing that people sleeping separately helps marriages.
http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmi...rate-beds.html

[deejaydana]

For me Love is officially lost when I receive the restraining order paperwork.

[SemperFi Skins]

Studies are actually showing that people sleeping separately helps marriages.
http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmi...rate-beds.html

But how long can that last? My parents moved in to separate beds on their brink of divorce... Correct me if I am wrong ladies but from what I have seen, woman need that companionship and sense of security in the bedroom. In separate beds, it's like dating again. The only reason they interract is for sex. I wouldn't trust Ask Men magazine on this subject for the entire truth...

[spjunkies]

This pretty much explains it.

[AsburySkinsFan]

But how long can that last? My parents moved in to separate beds on their brink of divorce... Correct me if I am wrong ladies but from what I have seen, woman need that companionship and sense of security in the bedroom. In separate beds, it's like dating again. The only reason they interract is for sex. I wouldn't trust Ask Men magazine on this subject for the entire truth...

It depends on why they sleep in separate rooms, if he moved out because they couldn't stand one another that's one thing. Keep in mind sleeping in the same bed is a fairly recent phenomenon, and was considered a scandal when Mr. And Mrs. Brady shared at bed on tv.

[SemperFi Skins]

It depends on why they sleep in separate rooms, if he moved out because they couldn't stand one another that's one thing. Keep in mind sleeping in the same bed is a fairly recent phenomenon, and was considered a scandal when Mr. And Mrs. Brady shared at bed on tv.

I can understand that, and I actually did not know that... but take it outside of the bedroom then... Do PDA's mean anything. Is it for attention and is there a reason people are against it?

[renaissance]

PDA's depend on the person. I personally hate PDA's bc I don't like the attention. But just because I don't want my man trying to make out with me in public, doesn't mean I don't love him

[AsburySkinsFan]

I can understand that, and I actually did not know that... but take it outside of the bedroom then... Do PDA's mean anything. Is it for attention and is there a reason people are against it?

Again, it is based on each couple, and their relational/cultural expectations.

---------- Post added December-28th-2012 at 03:47 PM ----------

PDA's depend on the person. I personally hate PDA's bc I don't like the attention. But just because I don't want my man trying to make out with me in public, doesn't mean I don't love him

Ooohhhh.....wow.....didn't know you were a woman......

[TheLongshot]

I guess YMMV. My wife and I have had seperate sheets for most of our relationship and we like having a little space. (Actually, I'm the one who searches for space sometimes, since she goes to bed before me and ends up taking up a lot of space at times.) I don't know if it is really a meaningful measure of anything.

[AsburySkinsFan]

I guess YMMV. My wife and I have had seperate sheets for most of our relationship and we like having a little space. (Actually, I'm the one who searches for space sometimes, since she goes to bed before me and ends up taking up a lot of space at times.) I don't know if it is really a meaningful measure of anything.

My wife and I have separate comforters, at first I didn't like the idea but we totally sleep better so for the past 16 years we've had separate covers. We also have a king size bed and sleep much better since we don't disturb each other.

[SemperFi Skins]

PDA's depend on the person. I personally hate PDA's bc I don't like the attention. But just because I don't want my man trying to make out with me in public, doesn't mean I don't love him

Not to get in to your personal business too much, but does it correlate to back home? Is there romance in the home other than the bedroom?

[Special K]

At some point you just come to the realization you were a dumbass who made a really bad decision to marry the person you did. You just "know." Hope that helps

As for the sleeping in the same bed, I think it depends on each individual relationship. I mean, if I had a husband who had to sleep with a CPAP machine, or snored really loudly, or moved around a lot, I would probably opt to sleep separately just b/c I'm a complete a-hole when I don't get sleep

[AsburySkinsFan]

I wouldn't trust Ask Men magazine on this subject for the entire truth...

Trust me, that's the first time I've read their article on the issue, but lately it has been fairly well documented.

[SemperFi Skins]

My wife and I have separate comforters, at first I didn't like the idea but we totally sleep better so for the past 16 years we've had separate covers. We also have a king size bed and sleep much better since we don't disturb each other.

But that is still the same bed... I can understand the different comforters... Some people even have the Sleep Number bed, which sucks btw, but because of the comfort levels...

But did you used to cuddle a lot and now it's non existent?

Some blame it on "oh thats what happens once you're married over time" but to me that's an excuse... IMO